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1 in 4 parents say their young child has bedtime anxiety, new poll finds

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When her daughter was six years old, Kelceymarie Warner began to notice her child鈥檚 hesitation before bedtime.

鈥淗er body would be a little more tense, and she would hyperventilate if you pushed the subject too soon, she really needed to be slowly moved into the cycle.鈥

Warner, who is a parent to four young daughters, believes that sticking to a nightly routine is the best way for her kids to have an easy transition to bedtime. But when her six-year-old was experiencing bedtime anxiety, Warner had to make some additions to her routine.

Warner is not the only one 鈥 many parents know all too well what can be a nightly struggle to get their young children to bed.

A new C.S. Mott Children鈥檚 Hospital (U.S.) National Poll on Children鈥檚 Health reinforces this common difficulty, revealing that one in four parents said their child has because they are anxious or worried. Over one-third of parents reported that their child doesn鈥檛 stay asleep throughout the night and often or occasionally wakes up upset or crying. 

鈥淔rom 1 year of age to 6 years of age, kids change a lot. The different phases that they go to are often pretty predictable: They鈥檙e scared of the dark, or as kids develop and their imagination develops 鈥 now they鈥檙e scared of monsters,鈥 said Sarah Clark, Mott poll co-director and a research scientist in pediatrics at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor. 鈥淚t can be all sorts of things, and so often with kids, and I would argue adults too, some of those anxieties seem to come out at night.鈥

The Mott Poll was conducted in February with 781 parents who have at least one child aged one to six years old.

Almost half reported their child leaving their bed and moving to the parent鈥檚 bed some or most nights, while one in three parents said their child often or occasionally insists that they stay in the room until the child falls asleep.

But some of these habits may be causing more trouble than the temporary relief they provide, Clark said. While a child may feel safe knowing the parent is in the room, they could later wake up and not be able to go back to sleep on their own, she added.

How to help an anxious child with bedtime

Warner said her child鈥檚 bedtime anxiety may have been caused by the major changes that happened when her youngest daughter was in the neonatal intensive care unit for three months.

鈥淢y husband and I were gone for extended periods during the day and even during the night because we wanted to be with a new baby who was born three months early 鈥 but we also needed to be there with our other children. I think she really struggled with a major change in her routine, and it just kind of triggered this very difficult time for her especially.鈥

Warner began incorporating activities into her daughter鈥檚 bedtime routine that would promote relaxation and reassurance, such as drinking herbal tea after bathtime, reading a story together and saying nightly affirmations like 鈥淚 am loved鈥 and 鈥淚 am important.鈥

The new routine took longer than usual, sometimes up to an hour, but now, a little over a year later, her daughter is able to go through some parts of the routine on her own, and is able to better self-soothe, Warner said. She had posted her advice for other parents that may be facing a similar scenario on her in 2023. 

The most important factor in getting kids to bed is consistency and sticking with a bedtime routine, Mott Poll co-director Clark said. Ninety per cent of polled parents reported having an established and consistent bedtime routine.

But some 27 per cent described getting their child to bed was difficult, and those parents were more likely to not have a bedtime routine, stay in the room until the child fell asleep and keep the television or a video on.

鈥淲e know that young children really resonate with consistency and routine, and getting ready for bed helps their body and their brain know that this is the time to start winding down,鈥 said Dr. Lauren Hartstein, an assistant professor in the department of psychiatry at the University of Arizona. She studies sleep and circadian health in early childhood and was not involved in the Mott poll.

Hartstein recommends limiting media use at night, especially avoiding exciting content that could stimulate the child鈥檚 brain and make it harder to wind down.

A January 2022 study that Hartstein led found that children around this age group were more sensitive to light at night than adults are, and it could interfere with a child鈥檚 production of natural melatonin, a hormone that regulates the sleep-wake cycle. Parents could find it beneficial to dim the lights an hour before bed, which would trigger a mental cue that it鈥檚 time to get ready to sleep soon, she added. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34997782/

As for staying in the child鈥檚 bedroom until they fall asleep, Clark recommends leaving the room and returning to check in every few minutes, which lets the child know that someone will be making sure they are safe every so often, but not staying in the room indefinitely.

It鈥檚 common for young children to experience sleep issues, especially as preschool-age children begin to reduce or drop naptime, Hartstein said. If parents are especially worried or see their child struggling during the day because they are sleepy, they should talk with their pediatrician, she added.

Giving melatonin to young children

The poll also found one in five parents often or sometimes give their child melatonin before bedtime, which came as a surprise given the younger age range of one to six years old, Clark said. 鈥淐learly, this is something that people are feeling the need to try with younger kids. So, I think it鈥檚 kind of a signal of how disruptive sleep problems can be for the whole family.鈥

It isn鈥檛 recommended to give melatonin to children younger than age of three, since many with children that age are behavioural, according to Boston Children鈥檚 Hospital. If a parent is considering giving melatonin to their child, they should speak with their pediatrician first, Hartstein said.

鈥(One) concern is that what you鈥檙e teaching them is that if they can鈥檛 sleep, they should just take a medication, at a time when they should really be developing these healthy sleep habits that will carry them through childhood,鈥 she added.

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